My Refuge

When life turns cold
I close my eyes, think of you
seal myself within your warmth
nestle in your love, cuddle in that bliss
shade in that smile,
my perfect refuge...

and when I open my eyes,
I am surprised how time flies
but I know life is no longer cold
what was tough is easy now, things in my hold
I love you not enough, but I love you forever...


- Maddy
Dedicated to my Wife..

Toilet time

We all spend a significant proportion of our short lives on the toilet, and, since few people have a toilet equipped with either a long mirror, or sometimes TV, reading is a popular means of filling this time. However, far too little work has been done on the factors influencing the choice of toilet reading matter. This humble treatise is an attempt to help rectify this situation.


 Sometime in my working career, I had a Boss. He used to come up with some innovative ideas, he did win some awards and surprisingly as we micro-observed his movements very closely, we concluded that all his innovation and came, everytime he came out of Toilet. Toilet was his thinking hub. He suggested new plans, new changes, he brought in some phenomenal processes into the team and, we had candid proof that all of it originated in the Washroom. Since then it has been a aspect, that, everytime we visit the toilet its so barely noticed how we get into some really interesting thinking process.


 Also, toilet can sometimes be fun, carry a magazine or a newspaper with you, I tried this once very long back, it was interesting. I had a friend who used to do it so regularly and his time in toilet was information collecting and long lasting. He would spend about an hour in the washroom. I have also heard about people listening to music while they output all the junk. 


There has been research saying how much calories we burn, especially after  last nights heavy/tight meal. I know this post is funny, but, just give it a thought - keeping aside all the GROSS aspect of the washroom. Its your own personal time! Its second to finding peace (unless your flood gates are open). A toilet is probably not the place to attempt to fire your enthusiasm for something which you need to read but don't really want to. It's preferable to have something that interests you, but doesn't hold your interest for too long at a time.


If, like me, you are terrified by the prospect of mortality and want to make the most of your time on this earth, you might want to read something useful. At a rough estimate, you will spend maybe six months on the toilet over the course of your life (based on ten minutes per day for seventy years) and it might be nice to feel you've used this time wisely.


Some people may consider that it's inappropriate to read a work for which they have great reverence while engaging in defecation. They say "hey you cant carry Book into your washroom, its disrespecting God", This is a matter for personal taste, and a question of whether you consider poo to be actually morally evil, or merely smelly.


My suggestion for some good books to read when you go out there to poop, carry a National Geographic Magazine, or a Dan Brown's work, a newspaper (like midday or tehelka would do where you read about acci Outlook and India today can also really spice up your time in the room, it doesnt matter if you are using an indian or a western toilet, find a place to keep the book safe and clean. One Article can last many toilet sittings.. 


It hardly needs to be stated that this article has merely scratched the surface of the topic it attempts to explore. What, the reader may well ask, about taking with you a book which you're reading already? What further considerations come into play with other people's toilets and public toilets? There are rich seams waiting to be mined, and I hope that I have inspired a few bold souls to venture beyond this modest beginning.


So enjoy... Happy S*****ting :)


Spend your valuable hours in valuable thinking.. 

Thats how its meant to be

My best friend, brother, god's gift - Henry, has a medicine for all the bad things that happen to us. I can call it a medicine because it heals the state of which you approach him with an issue and when he says "Thats how it had to be, just leave it." and he doesn't talk anything after that - things get better within me.

   When I used crib about work or share a sob story all he says is "It was supposed to happen this way, dont worry about it", and he goes quiet after this for a long time or shifts the topic or even makes me laugh. That soothes a lot. I thought it was just a way of avoiding the problem, but, the truth is he saved me from two things getting into a state of trouble and sadness, and, spreading negativity.

  If you are not happy at work, things not going good with your friends, money problem, career issues, dont talk about it. Just let it be the way it is. dont think about it. All you will do then is invite negativity and spread negativity around. Remember, you are what you think. You get what you think more. So think something Positive always, think of the best things you want to do in life. Life is more than what you want, life is what you want to be, it is what you make it.

This way of Henry's handling negativity really works. The next time, things go wrong, do not send out negativity into the universe and into yourself, breathe in deep, close your eyes, imagine your parents/wife/GF/BF etc., buy a new dress, share a coffee with a friend, watch a movie etc.,., but never let out things within and with others, everything in life is a phase and it will pass, eventually. By thinking more about it or cribbing and gossiping it with others, wont help, let it pass.. I have seen people cribbing 24/7, if possible, also, stay away from them. They are a signboard saying "Keep Away".
Good Luck.