Thursday, February 17, 2011

Howz Married Life?

I got married 3months and 3 days ago from the time I am writing this blog. And, many, in fact, most of my friends, before they ask me "How are you?" ask me "Howz Married life?". Not to blame them, I guess, in their minds, both these questions are linked into eachother, perhaps they may be. And, when they pop that question up, funny thing is that they are looking for a Whacky answer! Something that would tickle their bones and get them to giggle and some expect a disastrous sad story and expect me to say "Bachelor life was better then Married life"! 


          Does life really change after marriage?. I remember having this very doubt the day I got engaged. Does life really change? Will I get time to do the things I like after tieing the knot? I'm not an experienced person, haven't spent years of married life, but if you are looking for true facts from a newlywed, then, this is the post for you! On May 16th we got engaged and Nov 14th we were married and its been the Best Part of my life. Its not always about finding the right mate, its about being the right mate and in my case, we both are right for eachother! I mean, she is great, she is the best in everything she is and I will always remain crazy about her since day 1 I saw her. 
Well I do have a romantic side of my story but I am focusing on my wedding experience alone here.
Yep, Life does Change! - Whether you like it or not, life changes big time after marriage. You don't really get time to do things you like -- or maybe you can if you squeeze out enough time in between all the chores. But then again, you feel too exhausted by the end of the day to enjoy these things that you feel so passionate about! I'm working from home and at the same time I have to do my everyday chores which doesn't leave me with much time for my hobbies like reading. I still want to finish the book "Fountainhead" and trying to finish it since a month and still i havent made much progress. 



LAZYNESS CREEPS IN: Yes I wake up late, in my bachelor days I used to wake up early and head for my classes on time, office on time, cook on time etc.,., but now, my wife wakes up at 6 while I am still lazing on the bed till 9 AM. After returning from work, I want to just lie around, not do anything, this has been the case since my bachelorhood,and this has been the same even now.  


KICKSTART LEARNING - LEARN Cleaning and Cooking - 2 MAJOR activities take up a MAJOR part of ur time and interest. I am very bad at cleaning. The first time I walked into my house after wedding, i was in a doubt for a while and was not sure if I walked into the right house or if my house got taken over by somebody else. Everything was so neat and tidy, arranged, well kept, decorated etc.,.,! I could see my marble floor sparkling which it never did when I was staying alone! Well, thanks to my wife, she had done up the house so really neat, I am learning to keep it that way, and I think I am halfway there.
Cooking - its natural forme when I get hungry I cook the way  I want, but, my lil wife doesnt like all the greasy spicy junk mix I make. Nor do I help her when she cooks. I have to learn to be more co operative, hopefully I will be :)



Sometimes It's Better to Agree with Your Wife Even if You're Right - We all whine when we are sick, all men do. Even if its cold we cry, unlike women who make tough times look easy. All our whining gets women to care for us more, love more, and we get all the affection that way. When we are getting so much, just agree to whatever your wife says. She is anyday the best person in the whole world rightafter your mom! yes she is!!Or As its say "Agree to Disagree", but whatever you do, try to agree as many times as possible. 


Dont Expect Coffeees in the morning - Oh come on, atleast not when you are a newly wed! you are not in a Hotel Lodge and dont expect your wife who is getting up early for you, cooking for you, keeping your house neat n clean, folding your clothes, who has left all her parents and house just for you and is already doing so much for you, to also get you a bed coffee!


These are the few things I think are what I feel so far, but, its always amazing to be together, dream together and live together! its superb isnt it that you get to end the day on the same pillow and the magic it is that you also get a chance to be YOU in someone else's eyes who is also doing the same thing from the other end? 


Even after 25 yrs from now, I will say "Our wedding was many years ago.  The celebration continues to this day"as I continue to celebrate my marriage! I love my wife, love everything about her and being with her, I know there wouldnt be any day, second, or a moment that would seem impossible to handle.
Be Happy.... :)

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