My best friend, brother, god's gift - Henry, has a medicine for all the bad things that happen to us. I can call it a medicine because it heals the state of which you approach him with an issue and when he says "Thats how it had to be, just leave it." and he doesn't talk anything after that - things get better within me.
When I used crib about work or share a sob story all he says is "It was supposed to happen this way, dont worry about it", and he goes quiet after this for a long time or shifts the topic or even makes me laugh. That soothes a lot. I thought it was just a way of avoiding the problem, but, the truth is he saved me from two things getting into a state of trouble and sadness, and, spreading negativity.
If you are not happy at work, things not going good with your friends, money problem, career issues, dont talk about it. Just let it be the way it is. dont think about it. All you will do then is invite negativity and spread negativity around. Remember, you are what you think. You get what you think more. So think something Positive always, think of the best things you want to do in life. Life is more than what you want, life is what you want to be, it is what you make it.
This way of Henry's handling negativity really works. The next time, things go wrong, do not send out negativity into the universe and into yourself, breathe in deep, close your eyes, imagine your parents/wife/GF/BF etc., buy a new dress, share a coffee with a friend, watch a movie etc.,., but never let out things within and with others, everything in life is a phase and it will pass, eventually. By thinking more about it or cribbing and gossiping it with others, wont help, let it pass.. I have seen people cribbing 24/7, if possible, also, stay away from them. They are a signboard saying "Keep Away".
Good Luck.
